Trying to wrap my head around this burgeoning pre-teen rudeness that we keep encountering (building on the conversations that we have every single day - see my previous post). What is the point of rudeness? And why does it grate so much?
I think I know why it grates so much - it's just not necessary. Ever. I honestly can't think of any situation that calls for rudeness. Anger, sure. Disappointment, of course, Frustration, yep. Rudeness? Nope - can't think of any reason to be rude - ever.
Of course, I have been rude - it's typically the outcome of extreme frustration. But my pre-teen (who will be 10 in about 11 days) seems to get to this point extremely quickly and unnecessarily. So why is rudeness the outcome?
Is it a show of superiority? (You're beneath me, so I don't have to even try to be polite to you.)
Is it a necessary pre-condition of teenagerdom? (They won't let him into the club unless he's rude beyond belief to his parents.)
Is it because he lacks the social skills to do anything else? (Well, all the grade 6 kids do it, so therefore it must be ok...)
I'm really befuddled. Why why why so rude?
Only 9 more years....
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